The Art of Going Deeper

Today I meet with my friend Lawrence. Online. 90 minutes. We’ve invited 5-6 others to join us. Our theme is The Art of Going Deeper. Going deeper as a yearning. As an angst. As a passion. As a birthright. As a wonder. As a hunch. Lawrence and I have been having these conversations with regularity over the last two years. We are experimenting now with the small group.

Today I imagine some of the conversation to be about contexts — In what context to you wish to go deeper? Relationships? A project? A particular circumstance? A general way of being? I’m really interested to lead with stories and contexts more than definitions, though I imagine it all to blur together.

And then, jumping to anticipated experience, I imagine a lifted energy amongst the group. A lifted and enjoyable quality of attention and kindness together. A shared yearning. Perhaps a witness of unique yearning. When we create a space to yearn together, such as these — just enough intention and structure to hold some free-flow and surprise — well then something important tends to happen.

Feel free to add your reflections. In what contexts do you wish to go deeper?

Me: The big one for me today is this present moment. The moment with Lawrence. This group of beautifully yearning people. I wish to go deeper with the simple invitation and the initial presence that helps so much. I wish that going deeper so as to interrupt the ways that I diffuse my depth, frankly, by worrying about too many things. Yup. Hmm.

You? In what contexts do you currently wish to go deeper?

A Parallel Reality of Joy & Hope

Nice piece here from The Marginalian (thx Jeremy for sending it my way.

Ain’t this the discipline and invitation and maturing that so many of us are working on.

In a world pocked by cynicism and pummeled by devastating news, to find joy for oneself and spark it in others, to find hope for oneself and spark it in others, is nothing less than a countercultural act of courage and resistance.

This is not a matter of denying reality — it is a matter of discovering a parallel reality where joy and hope are equally valid ways of being. To live there is to live enchanted with the underlying wonder of reality, beneath the frightful stories we tell ourselves and are told about it.

Zeal

There’s a certain category of words that are slightly out of use, yet that I find attractive. Slightly playful.

Dandy.
Groovy.
Quirky.

They are fun to insert into moments of conversation. It’s like they invite a temporary suspension of the rules of the words that should be spoken.

Hmm…. I like temporary suspensions.

“Zeal” is another. And my friend Nicola used it recently in what of her invitations (Nicola will be featured next week in the B & B Series).

Zeal — it’s a tiny bit outrageous. How’s your zeal? Where’s your zeal coming from these days?

Nicola contexted her use of zeal with “curious, engaged, and alive.”

Gonna make it a “zeal” day.

Join me? Or us next Wednesday.

The Practice Of Finding Ourselves In A Story

Today’s Becoming & Belonging Session is “Let’s Have A Story.” We start at 10:00 MT. Online. A small group in Circle.

Our format invites this most important of practices — “finding ourselves in another’s story, so as to inform our own story, our own path, and our own life.”

I guide. And participate. I tell the story, and invite rounds of Circle that notice “details” from the story.

And then we weave, and notice together. So often finding aha. So often celebrating a practice of presence and witness together.

And then on with the day / evening.

Jump in. You’ll find a welcoming bunch.

Gifts of Circle - Question Cardsasd
Gifts of Circle is 30 short essays divided into 4 sections: 1) Circle's Bigger Purpose, 2) Circle's Practice, 3) Circle's First Requirements, and 4) Circle's Possibility for Men. From the Introduction: "Circle is what I turn to in the most comprehensive stories I know -- the stories of human beings trying to be kind and aware together, trying to make a difference in varied causes for which we need to go well together. Circle is also what I turn to in the most immediate needs that live right in front of me and in front of most of us -- sharing dreams and difficulties, exploring conflicts and coherences. Circle is what I turn to. Circle is what turns us to each other."

Question Cards is an accompanying tool to Gifts of Circle. Each card (34) offers a quote from the corresponding chapter in the book, followed by sample questions to grow your Circle hosting skills and to create connection, courage, and compassionate action among groups you host in Circle.

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In My Nature
is a collection of 10 poems. From A Note of Beginning: "This collection of poems arises from the many conversations I've been having about nature. Nature as guide. Nature as wild. Nature as organized. I remain a human being that so appreciates a curious nature in people. That so appreciates questions that pick fruit from inner being, that gather insights and intuitions to a basket, and then brings the to table to be enjoyed and shared over the next week."

This set of Note Cards (8 cards + envelopes)  quotes a few favorite passages from poems in In My Nature. I offer them as inspiration. And leave room for you to write personal notes.

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Most Mornings is a collection of 37 poems. I loved writing them. From the introduction: "This collection of poems comes from some of my sense-making that so often happens in the morning, nurtured by overnight sleep. The poems sample practices. They sample learnings. They sample insights and discoveries. They sample dilemmas and concerns."

This set of Note Cards (8 cards + envelopes)  quotes a few favorite passages from poems in Most Mornings. I offer them as inspiration. And leave room for you to write personal notes.

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