Zoe, my daughter, now 12, enjoying her first bra, email, cell phone, text messages in abundance, and a bunch of other things that just challenge me as dad, has really turned to her friends. Yes, they are all 12-13. I was looking for an in with Zoe – “When do you find yourself most happy?” She responded quickly – “when I’m shopping.” I hid my interior groan and frown. “Tell me about one of your favorite shopping times.” We proceeded. I just listened. Despite wishing that “shopping” was not the central feature of bliss for her – ever heard of a walk! – I was really happy to see her light up. And, it wasn’t too hard to notice that in her story, she was saying she liked the freedom, to which I could very easily agree that I like it too.